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Self-Destructive Behavior Can Erupt If You Become Overly Self-Critical

self-destructive-behaviorHave you ever taken a close look at what precipitates self-destructive behavior?  Sometimes behaviors that seem to start out as healthy can alter to become so obsessive that they transform more accurately into defects of character rather than positive attributes in a person.  Take dedication as an example.  When a person works hard and becomes passionate, it is typically a great and admirable quality.  However, it can become completely disastrous and unhealthy when the person becomes self-obsessed, overly critical, analytical, and a perfectionist.

Self-Destructive Behavior

Defects of character can stand out most particularly after a person has been displaying examples of behaviors for them for over an extended period of time.  Dedication is an excellent quality but can absolutely be taken too far if the focus becomes obsessive.  It can lead to precision thinking, where the individual sees black and white, good and bad, right and wrong.  They lose the ability to see anything in between and their mentality is skewed.  This critical view of themselves attributes to self-destructive behavior both immediately and over time because they end up inadvertently teaching themselves to be overly critical of themselves.  Kelly Parisi could relate to this happening, as she developed an eating disorder after becoming much too critical on her yoga regimen, “I became harder on myself and my performance.  My focus became less of an inward journey and more focused on fitting in.”  When the person becomes consumed by taking the time to be attentive to their external sightings, they fail to see how frequently they judge themselves and belittle themselves as a result.  This can prove to be extremely detrimental as it had in Kelly’s case because people can end up picking themselves apart for every minor flaw not being concisely configured to perfection.

Importance of Balance

Dedication can drive a person much too far.  This is where balance comes into play.  What is balance?  Balance can be defined as “something put in a steady position so that it does not fall.”  When the meaning is applied to life, it can be interpreted that this positioning is needed for maintenance of stability.  Without balance, a person may end up overwhelmed, outraged, or be feeling another emotion in excess.  As it pertains to self-destructive behavior, a lack of balance can drive a person to acting out in unhealthy ways that don’t suit their best state of mind.  Being self-critical of yourself all the time can be draining and create a habit of negative self-talk.  This is why finding ways to balance your critique can prevent you from staying stuck inside your head and getting too self-involved with your own perfectionist character defects.

Self-destructive behavior can happen all of a sudden or build up slowly over time.  Either way, you have to be cautious, especially when it comes to being overly critical and the amount of strenuous pressure you dedicate towards yourself to be a certain way.  Remember that the process of growth is more about the journey during the transformation than the actual destination of the end result of the person you become.

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